“Thermodynamics can really help to understand ‘bonding’ between human beings as in chemical molecules.”
See main: Human chemical reactionPati, firstly, defines a relationship as combination reaction between two persons A and B, who he says “come together to form a molecule”, a reaction he defines as follows:
A + B → AB
See also: Spontaneity criterionPati then explains how Gibbs free energy applies in chemistry, stating that the higher free energy an atom or molecule has, the more restless it is, whereby it has the tendency to form bonds so to stabilize. He also notes that molecules, such as a two people in a relationship, with high free energy, can break apart so to elevate the stress of a strained relationship.
See also: Collision theory, etc.Pati also discusses human relationships in terms of activation energy. He states that for two atoms to come together, they both have to be excited to a certain energy level, i.e. “raise the free energy so that they can react or bond”, just as the case with reactions between human beings. Beyond this he speculates on how “cold human beings” (see: cold body) related to activation energy, and how having too much stability can be detrimental to the dynamics and energetics of a process.
See: Extent of reaction, arrow of time, etc.Pati uses Newton’s third law of motion, that every action has an equal and opposite reaction, to postulate that the more time it takes to form a bond the more stable it will be in the long run. This postulate, however, may not be accurate, in that spontaneity is what characterizes successful reactions; whereas, reactions that lack spontaneity tend to be equilibrium reactions, characterized by negligible Gibbs free energy change (ΔG ≈ 0). To corroborate this, it is well-known that relationships that slow to form marriage bonds, particularly those that choose to live together prior to marriage, tend to end in divorce.
See also: human entropy, second lawPati argues that the underlying thermodynamic reason for divorce, which in India occur in 45% of marriages, is entropy, which he defines as the measure of disorderliness in a system. He argues that because the ‘entropy law’ states that systems always tend to disorder, that to counter this in relationships, pairs tend to become structured towards each other, often making extreme sacrifices, in such a way that freedom tends to be reduced. In this context, Pati postulates that in those who divorce, stress builds, up due to entropy, reaching a tipping point that he calls a volcano effect.
# Thermodynamic Advice 1. Relationships (and friendships) require free energy (release); one is advised to avoid cold people. 2. Free energy is influenced by activation energy. 3. Activation energy is dependent on one’s childhood. Parents are suggested to make their child sensitive; but not to overdo it, such that he or she reacts to everything, in that being a reactive compound is dangerous, an example being someone who loses his or her identity to harm others. 4. Get into a relationship but don’t become a lot structured. Don’t let your freedom be affected. 5. Show some genuine love for your partner. Strike a perfect trade-off between entropy and enthalpy.
See main: Religious thermodynamicsPati’s discussion is interspersed with mentions of spirituality, which weakens his presentation, to some extent. Some of his other writings include meanderings on God as an atom.